Just a few tips on how to be courteous....

Dear fellow parents,

I just want to let you know how much I appreciate your courtesy to other drivers during the morning drop off at school.  No please, by all means, continue putting on your eyeliner and talking on the phone.  I really didn’t need you to let me know that you were turning.  I understand how that pesky signal stick is just SO far out of the way, so really, don’t trouble yourself! Not only am I not on time for work, but I am also more than happy to continue sitting here when I could have turned 5 minutes ago.  Kind people like you all really help set the tone for my day, so thank you.

Another point I feel obligated to mention is that the “drop-off lane” is exactly as the name states.  You drop off your child and then drive away.  Please do not park in this lane and watch your 9 year old to see if they actually made the 15 feet walk from your car to the building.  If you were really all that concerned you would park your car, walk your kid into their class and not continue to waste my time.  I suppose I can understand your concern if this were my kids’ first year at school but if they are in 3^rd grade and you still grit your teeth with worry during that short walk, you have some serious separation anxiety issues that need to be worked out, stat!!!

Also, I swear, if I see one more little girl wearing a winter coat paired with Rainbow flip-flops in the cold January weather, I’m going to punch you in the throat.  If you can afford Rainbows, you can afford some sneakers or some snow boots. 

Come on now parents!! Get on the ball here!!

I sincerely hope that your children grow up to be better and more courteous drivers than you are; however, with your driving ability, I seriously doubt that will happen. 

On a lighter note, despite my comments above, I am actually in an incredible mood today which is a nice change of pace!!

So, I’m interested, what suggestions would you give to other parents? Let’s keep the comments PG 13 here!

Kristen B Riggan

Tired of Crappy Drivers

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Online Vs. Outside

What to do when your child refuses to shut down the computer.

I remember the good ol’ days when I was young.  All I wanted to do was play outside with my sister or the animals. (Hey, I didn’t get the nickname Elmira for no reason!!) We would climb trees, throw rocks into the creek, go ice skating on the pond, make rock forts, and so much more!  To say I was a tom-boy is an understatement. 

I had an odd 6^th sense that would allow me to somehow know whenever my mom wanted to put me in a dress and tights.  That sense saved me for dressing up countless times!! Mom would eventually give up her pursuit and let me wear pants and a shirt. Score!

I remember how I dreaded the moment that my mom would poke her head out the window and call, “Girls, it’s time for dinner, come inside!!!”  Don’t get me wrong, my mom’s cooking is great but I knew that after dinner it was bath time, and after bath time it was bedtime, thus the end of my outside play for the day.  It was a sad time indeed.

My point is, I LOVED playing outside for hours upon hours.  Muddy clothes, scraped knees, and burrs in my hair were the everyday norm for me.  It was great! 

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I am finding that the older Darien and Emily get, the harder it is to get them to go outside and play.  I want them to use their imagination and climb trees and dig up bugs.  I wouldn’t trade those bits of my childhood for the world, and I so badly want Darien and Emily to experience all that I did!  Technology had definitely become a problem in our household.  We had a Wii, a computer, a 3DS AND a regular DS, a PSP, and a Super Nintendo.  Not to mention the 5 televisions we have in our home!!  It’s ridiculous!!

One day I had an epiphany; it’s OUR fault that the kids don’t go outside anymore.  We have given them so much do INSIDE that they don’t have any reason to go outside.  Needless to say, we no longer have a Wii or the PSP.  The DS’s have been confiscated indefinitely and the computer is ONLY available for school work.  The TV’s upstairs are only watched on weekends and the TV in the living room is watched before school/work in the mornings and/or after homework for the week has been 100% completed. 

Do I think I’m being a bit overly harsh, NOT AT ALL!!! 

You see, ever since we have severely limited their exposure to all these games, they ask all the time if they can go outside!! Darien and Emily can spend literally hours outside, and I love it!  Not just because they’re out of my hair, but because I can see that they are having 10x more fun than they would ever have inside stuck in front of the television or computer screen.  My husband recently brought home hundreds blocks of wood from work and let the kids go to town!! They spent the entire day making little houses and trails and obstacle courses!  Darien now has a deep interest in building, and not only is it expanding his mind but you can’t go wrong when you know how to work with your hands and build!!  I’m so proud of him!!

So all you Moms and Dads out there, I am issuing a challenge for you all!  Turn off the television, shut down the computer, and take away the handheld games.  Yank the kiddos off the couch, put your shoes on, and go outside and have a good time!  Not only will it continue to strengthen your relationship with your family but it will also build your kids’ brainpower!! It’s an amazing thing!! 

I appreciate you all taking the time to read my blog this week!! Feel free to leave your comments.  Come back tomorrow to read our Friday Mom!!

Kristen B Riggan

Successful Mom-ipulator!

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A Day In The Life....

Welcome back to all of my faithful readers!! I’ve missed you all so much, yes, both of you!! First of all let me apologize for my little extended absence.  I have been buried over my head in work, Zumba, and Scentsy, not to mention the everyday roles of wife and mommy which you all know is a full time job in itself!

I’d like to take the time today to write about a problem that is present in so many of our lives.  This problem can take you over, make you forget details; cause your hair to fall out, your boobs to sag, and your patience to run away.  Yes ladies, you guessed it!  The affliction I am talking about is known as Motherhood.

I wake up every morning more tired than I was the day before.  Why, you may ask?  Well, I’ll walk you through a normal day in my life, lets say Tuesday, and it should explain quite nicely!

I woke up at 7am, as late as possible, and scrambled to get myself ready.  Thankfully, the kids are on spring break this week so there were no arguments about brushing their teeth or putting their shoes on.  I gave Daniel a bottle as he smacked my cheek whenever I looked away while watching the minutes on the clock tick tock tick tock, closer and closer to 7:50am.   This is the absolute latest time I can leave home and not be late for work.  My mom arrives at my house to watch the kids just in time for me to run out the door, pulling my sweater on, tripping over Emily’s shoe, and forgetting my coffee in the process. 

I get to work at 8:01, just great, and I am assaulted with 20 questions, requests, and comments in the small walk from the parking lot to my office.  Did you run that report? Can you help me with this spreadsheet?  How do you run a ticket report?  Do you want to go to lunch today?  AHHHHH, why can’t they just wait for me to hang up my sweater and get some coffee before they attack me!! 

Oh, who am I kidding; I love being needed by my work family!!

Anyways, 10 o’clock break rolls around and I’m so busy that I don’t realize until 11 o’clock that I’ve missed it.  Then comes lunch at 12 when I run home as fast as I can to see the kids and eat some pathetic excuse for a meal then rush back to work.  A few hours later comes our 3 o’clock break which again I accidently work right through. 

So up to this point, I’ve been running around non stop since the moment I woke up and the day is still so young!  I get off work at 5:30 and rush home where I immediately start cooking dinner.  Chicken, rice, and veggies sounds good for tonight! Oh but wait, I forgot I have to be at my Zumba class at 7 o’clock so I eat a quick bowl of cereal, give the hubbs instructions on how to serve the kids’ food, change into my workout gear and fly out the door to pick up my Zumba buddy.  We make it to class just in time to start jumping and dancing around without pause for an entire hour.  I absolutely love Zumba, but this day is getting longer and longer.

At 8 o’clock, Zumba is over and I stop at McDonalds on the way home to replace those many calories I just burned. It’s defeating the purpose, I know, but I’m just SO totally hungry after Zumba that I can’t think about anything else! When I get home, Daniel needs to be changed, the kids are fighting over the rules of some made up game yet again and the hubbs is sitting on the couch watching the latest episode of Pawn Stars.  The poor guy busts his butt all day at work so I can’t be too irritated with him.

I finally herd the kids up to bed around 9:30, an hour past their bedtime, and rock Daniel to sleep and put him in his crib. Once the kids are down, and Brian is snoring away on the couch, I pull out my Scentsy stuff and try to make some sales, update my website and sort out orders.  That usually takes an hour or so depending on sales.  I have made it to the end of my day, and somehow I haven’t managed to throw myself into oncoming traffic, so yay for me! 

Then, it’s time for dessert, WINE!

As I put my glass up to my lips I realize, oh crap, I have to shower!  It’s important; I’m stinky and sweaty from my entire day of chaos so I can’t put it off any longer. My day normally ends around 11 o’clock most nights and that’s if everything worked out as it should.

In all seriousness, as chaotic as my life sometimes is, I love it! I love that my kids have such an imagination and make up silly games to play even if it does end up in a fight.  I love that my husband works so hard for his family all day everyday and then still comes home and watches the kids while I try to go out and better myself. 

Thanks for reading this week, and again I’m SO sorry I haven’t been writing like I should.  Now you know why!

Kristen B Riggan

Exhausted to the MAX!

PS. For some really adorable candle warmers and other wonderfully scented items, check out my website! You won’t be sorry!!

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Marital Advice

Recently, I have been approached by several people who tell me how they see how madly in love with each other my husband and I are.  They seem almost in shock and awe of the fact that we rarely fight or that we still cuddle on the couch and hold hands.

I find this very sad.  Why is it such a shock that we “still” cuddle?  Still?  We’ve been married just under 3 years! I guess my question is when does the “newlywed love” or “honeymoon stage” wear off?  I can honestly say that yes, my husband and I still make out in the car and give each other sexy, smoldering looks from across a crowded room.  We actually find enough value in our relationship to WORK at it all the time.  It’s not something we just coast along and go with the flow and it’s definitely not something we’re willing to fail at.

Our first year of marriage was met with seemingly endless drama.  Maybe not the typical newlywed drama; jealous exes, child custody fights, and crazy family members seemed to come at us from all angles.  They wanted to break us. They wanted to hurt us and our family but the joke is on them because it only made us that much stronger!

To me, marriage is about being your husband or wife’s best friend, confidant, lover, and supporter just to name a few.  When couples forget what made them fall in love in the first place and get lazy in their marriage, they are dooming themselves to fail; it’s as simple as that.  I hear women talking crap about their husbands and constantly running them into the ground.  That’s where it starts.  I’m not saying you can’t joke around and be playful but I do NOT want to hear about how fat your man is or how bad his breath stinks everyday.  I think it’s totally disrespectful to him and it makes me very uncomfortable…ESPECIALLY when your man is right there listening!  All I can think about is how it makes him feel to be picked on in front of everybody.  It takes you back to your awkward teen years.

My husband isn’t perfect and neither am I but our relationship is pretty darn close. Sometimes I’ll write about Brian in my blog and poke a little fun at his snoring but I don’t constantly talk smack to the point where he develops a complex. 

I’d like to list a few of my favorite tips for all of you married folks out there who have forgotten why you got married in the first place.

1. Always, always, always compliment the one you love.  It can be a very small unimportant thing but it’s sure to make them feel good! “You smell really sexy today!” or “I love that shirt on you, it makes your arms look so muscular!”  Silly things like that really go a long way!

2. Touch!  Never underestimate the power of touch!  When you walk past him slap his butt or rub his back.  Why in the world wouldn’t you want to touch your husband?!?

3. Tell them how much you appreciate them.  Brian never wonders if I appreciate him because I let him know! I appreciate how hard he words to provide for our family.  I appreciate that he comes home from work every day dirty and sweaty to make sure we have what we need.  Ladies, men NEED to feel like their hard work does not go unnoticed.

4. Communicate.  If you’re upset with him, just tell him.  Don’t beat around the bush.  Don’t be immature and give him the silent treatment because you think he KNOWS WHAT HE DID!  They normally have no clue what they do to upset us.  We’re emotional creatures so how can we expect them to understand unless we tell them?

5. Intimacy is still key.  I’m not saying get busy every night because that’s just flat out unrealistic.  What I’m saying is that there are other ways to be intimate besides sex!  Rub each others feet and hands with lotion.  Take a shower together and wash each others backs.  Take the time to actually hug each other.  It’s so important and you won’t realize it until it’s gone!

I know I know, I’ve only been married for a very short amount of time compared to many couples out there so what do I know, right? Wrong! Why wouldn’t anyone want to take advice from someone who is still in the honeymoon phase?  It is my goal to make sure Brian and I are ALWAYS in the honeymoon phase.  Despite bills, work, family drama, anything I will not lose my marriage to the trials and tribulations of every day life.  We have got to get back to the basics ladies and remember why you fell in love with your husband.  Just think about it and take my 5 tips and put them into action and I guarantee that if you both are willing to fight for your relationship, you can too get back to your honeymoon phase. 

Thanks for reading today!

Kristen Riggan

Madly in Love

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