Recently, I have been approached by several people who tell
me how they see how madly in love with each other my husband and I are. They seem almost in shock and awe of the fact
that we rarely fight or that we still cuddle on the couch and hold hands.
I find this very sad.
Why is it such a shock that we “still” cuddle? Still?
We’ve been married just under 3 years! I guess my question is when does
the “newlywed love” or “honeymoon stage” wear off? I can honestly say that yes, my husband and I
still make out in the car and give each other sexy, smoldering looks from
across a crowded room. We actually find
enough value in our relationship to WORK at it all the time. It’s not something we just coast along and go
with the flow and it’s definitely not something we’re willing to fail at.
Our first year of marriage was met with seemingly endless
drama. Maybe not the typical newlywed
drama; jealous exes, child custody fights, and crazy family members seemed to
come at us from all angles. They wanted
to break us. They wanted to hurt us and our family but the joke is on them
because it only made us that much stronger!
To me, marriage is about being your husband or wife’s best
friend, confidant, lover, and supporter just to name a few. When couples forget what made them fall in
love in the first place and get lazy in their marriage, they are dooming
themselves to fail; it’s as simple as that.
I hear women talking crap about their husbands and constantly running
them into the ground. That’s where it
starts. I’m not saying you can’t joke
around and be playful but I do NOT want to hear about how fat your man is or
how bad his breath stinks everyday. I
think it’s totally disrespectful to him and it makes me very uncomfortable…ESPECIALLY
when your man is right there listening!
All I can think about is how it makes him feel to be picked on in front
of everybody. It takes you back to your
awkward teen years.
My husband isn’t perfect and neither am I but our
relationship is pretty darn close. Sometimes I’ll write about Brian in my blog
and poke a little fun at his snoring but I don’t constantly talk smack to the
point where he develops a complex.
I’d like to list a few of my favorite tips for all of you
married folks out there who have forgotten why you got married in the first
place.
- Always, always, always compliment the one you love. It can be a very small unimportant thing but it’s sure to make them feel good! “You smell really sexy today!” or “I love that shirt on you, it makes your arms look so muscular!” Silly things like that really go a long way!
- Touch! Never underestimate the power of touch! When you walk past him slap his butt or rub his back. Why in the world wouldn’t you want to touch your husband?!?
- Tell them how much you appreciate them. Brian never wonders if I appreciate him because I let him know! I appreciate how hard he words to provide for our family. I appreciate that he comes home from work every day dirty and sweaty to make sure we have what we need. Ladies, men NEED to feel like their hard work does not go unnoticed.
- Communicate. If you’re upset with him, just tell him. Don’t beat around the bush. Don’t be immature and give him the silent treatment because you think he KNOWS WHAT HE DID! They normally have no clue what they do to upset us. We’re emotional creatures so how can we expect them to understand unless we tell them?
- Intimacy is still key. I’m not saying get busy every night because that’s just flat out unrealistic. What I’m saying is that there are other ways to be intimate besides sex! Rub each others feet and hands with lotion. Take a shower together and wash each others backs. Take the time to actually hug each other. It’s so important and you won’t realize it until it’s gone!
I know I know, I’ve only been married for a very short
amount of time compared to many couples out there so what do I know, right?
Wrong! Why wouldn’t anyone want to take advice from someone who is still in the
honeymoon phase? It is my goal to make
sure Brian and I are ALWAYS in the honeymoon phase. Despite bills, work, family drama, anything I
will not lose my marriage to the trials and tribulations of every day
life. We have got to get back to the basics
ladies and remember why you fell in love with your husband. Just think about it and take my 5 tips and
put them into action and I guarantee that if you both are willing to fight for
your relationship, you can too get back to your honeymoon phase.
Thanks for reading
today!
Kristen Riggan
Madly in Love
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